It’s ok for children to act out sometimes but when it happens too often, parents feel lost and frustrated. Luckily, there are things you can do to teach your little one good behavior.
As a parent, you have probably felt overwhelmed while parenting a child. That’s totally fine. While we all are different, there are similarities in bad behavior patterns and there are things that can help you encourage your kids to behave better.
Children act out when they feel abandoned and want attention. That’s why bonding helps them get better at things. They feel secure and can concentrate on a task better, solve problems more efficiently and develop in a healthy way. However, don’t burden your child with your adult problems. This can create anxiety, which shouldn’t be a part of childhood.
2. Active Listening
When you communicate with your child, try to keep eye contact and give full attention. It is called active listening which is key to effective family communication. Moreover, your child will learn how to express his/her ideas openly.
3. Safe Environment
Your child should feel safe while communicating with you. Therefore, it is better to choose a mutual space, such as the kitchen, instead of an office, a bedroom or a study room. All magic happens in the kitchen and you should involve your child in such talks at least once a week – and be consistent with it.
4. Engage In the Empathic Process
Even though your child is very small, he/she can get involved in family problem solving, for example, conflict resolution. You should allow your child to participate in family meetings to feel that he/she is respected and has responsibilities, just like adults. It will also allow your child to control (reasonably, of course) what will happen to him/her, which boosts social skills.
When your child thinks his opinion matters, he will learn consequences and rewards for good and bad behavior, thus he will more likely to behave better. The emphatic process can vary depending on your family style. As a rule of thumb, you should let your child speak making eye contact, and then you should speak as well. As a parent, you should give your opinion and explain your reasons to your child.
It is important that your child brainstorms with other family members and offers solutions to problems. This works great for chores or homework, as well as allows you to keep the connection with children, checking in on how they are doing in all aspects of their lives.
5. Be Consistent
Once your child understands she can control you, she will do this all the time. However, if you’re consistent and trustful and your child discovers that, she will value it a lot. Moreover, it will teach her trust herself. If your child trusts herself, she will transfer it to her adult life. This is how you can raise a child who is proactive and secure.
6. You Are a Role Model
You are your child’s best teacher. But when your child gets older, he starts analyzing your behavior and looks at you with critical eyes. What you can do in order to engage positive behavior is to be a positive role model by helping your child, having good parenting skills, and being reliable. This way, your child will become more responsible and reliable.
I hope these simple tips help you! Do you have more tips? Share in the comments section!