Every child chooses a way to approach the world, cope with new people and experiences. And many children are very shy, meaning they don’t know how to socialize and are very cautious with unfamiliar people. They don’t like being with other kids and want to be cuddled only by trusted people. They stay on the sideline for a while watching what others are doing. And they can also protest when a person they don’t know well offers a hug.
The Benefits Of Playgrounds
During preschool years, playtime is one of the most effective ways to help your shy kid socialize. Playtime allows children to get fit and develop social skills. They also learn the idea of sharing with other kids. But if your child is very shy, don’t force him/her to change the temperament straight away.
Start small, don’t pressure your child. When you go to the playground, suggest your child talk to a small group of kids. Wait until he/she is ready and help your child introduce himself. If your child hesitates, let him look around and just play by himself. Try again several days later.
Sanboxes, slides and waterplay in the playground help your child have fun while socializing with others. Some playgrounds also have games for brains, like the Tic-Tac-Toe that gives children a sense of strategy, among other skills. Increased playtime helps children eliminate shyness while getting fit with fun activities involved. If you are worried about your child, playground is your step toward a “normal” lifestyle.
What A Parent Can Do?
Other than getting to the playground, there are also simple tips that can help your kid out of the shell. First of all, accept your kid for who he is. Sometimes, others can tell you that your kid isn’t normal; something like “you should see a doctor” and all sorts of things. But it’s none of their business. You know your child like nobody else. Only you can find the root of issues and develop the right solution.
If your child suffers a disability, you could bring him to a playground for children with disabilities. This way, your child will see that he is not alone. Sometimes, it helps to be more open in a familiar set-up. And never say that your child is shy when talking to others. These statements take away child’s confidence and the shyness is further intensified.
Give your child compliments that express happiness and appreciation over every little achievement in the playground. This will keep your child motivated which will help his development as he grows.
Modeling social skill is a good idea, as well. If you have a shy preschooler, focus on his friendliness and positive moments instead of emphasizing his shyness. Little by little, your sensitive parenting will help your child feel good about himself. If you are patient and understanding, your child will run onto the playground and start socializing, instead of watching other kids from afar.