Do you really need to tell everyone that your 3, 4, or 5 years old is so advanced? In this article, it is one of the things that you should never tell to a child along with “you’re better than others” and “you’re very smart”. We think that you shouldn’t tell it to adults, either. Why not? Let’s talk about it.
Every parent thinks that their child is special (and this is totally true!) and we all want our kids to be very talented, unique, successful, and just amazing. I have a child and I also think so. Sometimes, I imagine that my kid becomes the best in sports or school subjects. That’s totally fine.
By Saying The Kid Is Advanced, What Do You Risk Doing?
We are sure many of you have talked to parents of children who are in preschool and heard many times that the kid can do so many things that others can’t! Or something about the kid who can read and write like he’s already at a 2nd grade level.
Of course, it’s amazing that your child goes through developmental milestones so quickly. However, we can’t stop wondering why this kind of bragging is so popular nowadays, especially on social media. If so many kids are little geniuses, why do they struggle in 1st and 2nd grades, quickly losing their “advanced” skills?
It’s not about being pessimistic; it’s that we are putting children on a pedestal when they are too young and thus give them a higher place to fall from. We can understand when parents are happy when their children get through school and get into prestigious university and find a well-paid job. But kindergarten? That’s a bit too much.
And we haven’t even talked about the amount of homework preschoolers get these days. Of course, children should learn how to socialize and develop their social skills, but other subjects? We’re not so sure about that. And if you try to tell this to a parent who has a preschooler, they will tell you that in order to succeed in this world children have to learn everything by the age of 5 or earlier.
When I was a kid, I don’t remember doing any academic work before the 1st grade. Preschoolers could play games, dress-up, get creative, and make friends. These days, if they can read and write before kindergarten, they are “advanced”. It makes his/her parents very proud and they tell everyone how brilliant their child is.
But is this something we should try to achieve? What about having fun and playing in kindergarten? 5 years old kids study 8 hours a day, isn’t it too much? But many parents are sure the main aim is to force children to study more to become advanced and achieve excellence.
What are parents really get from this? Should we all start the race so early? And, most importantly, what is your child getting out of this race?
At the end of the day, every parent wants the best for their children. If you are sure academic pressure is beneficial for your kid’s future, go for it. If you’re focused on academic achievements of your preschoolers, it’s up to you.
We just wish our kids can have a softer childhood before they enter adult life and start measuring their achievements. So, while it is great if your child starts reading and writing early, I hope your child is happy, with good friends and praised for more than just academic achievements.